Erotic Hypnosis, Kink, and Magic

 This is a description of a workshop I conducted at SGRF, a gathering of Radical Faeries, masculine identified men into other men, spirituality, and alternative life styles on July 3rd, 2024.

I had not planned it out much, just figured I would pick it up where I left off with it at the gathering two years ago.   I was surprised how easily the words flowed out of me and how the workshop took form as I moved from one step to the next. At one point, I told them that it felt like I was putting out an incomplete form of my legacy and was offering it for others to pick up. And now, I am writing this in draft form, so I can have a record of what happened.

I started with a bit of my history and how I brought the idea of facilitated erotic play to the Faeries at the first gathering in 1979.  There are now many workshops with structured exercises to facilitate connections.

But this workshop keeps my original sense of facilitated creative play along with my own experience over the decades with erotic hypnosis, kink and magic.    Magic is bringing imagination with ritual and trance to create change. Kink was in the title to welcome our full fantasies and imagination, and erotic hypnosis provides techniques from hypnotherapy for guiding people into deeper and productive trance states

The first step in group participation was to get agreement on what we were all consenting to do with each other.

I explained what I would be doing with hypnosis and what they would be experiencing in the way of trance states.  They all consented to that.

We acknowledged that we needed to have non-verbal ways of being safe with each other since talking could easily break the flow, so we agreed that:

a: If a body part were covered, it would not be touched.

b: It is always appropriate to remove a hand from touching your body or move it elsewhere on the body.

c: The couch was a refuge from any touch or interaction.

d. Assholes were not to touched because he couldn’t regulate hand to mouth transmission in the group.

e. The spoken word “red” was a sign to stop touching the person, and “yellow” was to be careful.

I brought up the idea of being on “our edge-” a place of fantasy and turn-on, but also fear and discomfort.  Many shared some of their fantasies that involved others, e.g.  being in a pile with others, or having their body worshipped by a group of men or being forced to suck all the men in a group.  I pointed out that for the few that had fantasies of being more dominant, that it was about feeling their personal power and for the others it was letting go of control.  I also kept track of the individual fantasies.

After that we had a short pee break.  Before that, I told them that they knew what would happen next.  If they were having doubts, they could choose to watch from the couch, or they could easily leave. No one left or went to the couch. Many just took off more clothes.

I then led them through a hypnosis induction which took them to deeper levels of relaxation and suggestibility.  It also tuned them to the energy of the group and the trust they felt with each other.   I also set up some triggers, words that when said would bring a response in them. One of them was to “let go deep” which would bring them back to the hypnotic state. Another was the word “edge” to attune them to the possibilities of growth in that moment.

Then I guided them into moving around on their hands and knees, rubbing against each, and exploring each other.  I lightly guided them using the trigger words and other suggestions.  I also spent a little time with each of the ones that wanted to be more dominant and encouraged them to open to their power and be sensitively directive of others.

When the group energy and excitement was easing, I worked with the Faerie that wanted to be worshipped. I gathered some others together to worship him told them to do whatever way felt good to them.  They really got into, and the subject of it was in ecstasy.

 While that was going on, I asked the Faerie that wanted to be used in a group if he was into that. He was, so I also formed a group around him.  They forced him to do things and talked down to him.  This because a very hot sexual scene.

As we were winding down, I realized that my energy was spent.  It was amazing being inside the heads of so many turned on guys and feeling and freely touching their bodies that were pulsating with their sexuality.  But I was feeling very down then. 

So, I told them that I needed some of what they have been doing.  Many of them came around me and it was amazing.  Besides their bodies they were using many of the words and suggestions I had been using earlier.

 After that we officially ended the group; the Faeries left with big smiles on their faces, expressing a lot of appreciation.

One of the younger Faeries stuck around; we had the tent to ourselves to make the ending even more complete.

Not being one to stop and fully enjoy a great experience, my thoughts usually turn to getting more.   I scheduled another workshop for two days later at the same time and place.  But that is another story.